She is a paradox. She is faithful and yet detached. She is committed and yet relaxed. She is gentle and yet tough. She is passionate but can also be platonic. She is sociable but also a loner. In short, she is predictable in her unpredictability…

Home Team Advantage:

Everyone has a home team. If you are unsure of what this is to think of it as the people you call when you get a flat tire or when something terrible happens. It’s the people who, near and far, know everything that’s wrong with you and love you always. These are the people who you tell your secrets, who get themselves a glass of water without asking when they’re at your house. These are your people, your middle-of-the-night, no-matter-what people. It’s time to start building your legacy and leaving your mark on the world. Pick your inner circle carefully because this will help you build your foundation and legacy.

Simple Joys of Life:

Laughter.!. A simple giggle or upward curve of the lips can change a personal perspective and mood. I will share my reasons why I am attracted to laughter. Think of it positively; if someone smiles often, encourages others, and can enjoy the small things in life; I am naturally enticed by who they are. I admire someone who can put their cynical and pessimistic thoughts aside and bear through with a sense of humor. To me, that is everything. Society has its ups and downs but finding that simple glow in life that can turn your downs into ups are extremely important to growing your legacy in love. I know I’ve fallen in love with a compassionate person who can laugh through their own sorrows.

Positive Atmosphere in Others:

Surround yourself with people who better you. People who you can inspire as well as open your mind up for them to encourage you to be a better version of yourself than the day before. Those will be the people who push you towards dreams and goals you’d otherwise ignore, who selflessly sacrifice their time to helping you become a more courageous, well rounded and happy human being. That’s scared and it’s not entirely a bad idea to hold on to a love like that. Throughout life we are paired with our soulmates; whether that is a friend or lover. A soulmate is essentially a meeting of mind, spirit and/or body with someone whose strengths, flaws and energy perfectly complements your own. It is a steady ground to seek when developing the foundation you plan to build in your life and upcoming generations.

Fear Not; Embrace Fear for it will Strengthen you!

Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. The thing about being brave to make new and difficult decisions in life is that bravery doesn’t come with the absence of fear and hurt. Bravery is the ability to look fear in the face and move it aside because fear can stand in your way of your true purpose. If you are feeling frightened about what comes next, don’t be. Embrace the uncertainty. Allow it to lead you places. Be brave as it challenges you to exercise both your heart and your mind as you create your own path toward happiness don’t waste your time on regret. Calculate your next actions. Enjoy the present, each moment, as it comes, because you’ll never get another one quite like it. And if you should ever look up and find yourself lost, simply take a breath and start over. Retrace your steps and go back to the purest place in your heart where your hopes and dreams live. I promise you will find your way again.

Say Goodbye to Negativity

Goodbyes takes a great deal of courage, but what takes, even more, is the Hello that comes next, to cast your aversions aside despite all you’ve suffered and taken a chance on somebody new, to risk it all again because you know the human connection is precious and rare, and always worth the risk. The risk you keep when keeping negativity in your life is harmful to creating a solid foundation to grow. Make sure everybody in your “boat” is rowing and not drilling holes when you’re not looking because negative people will drag you under with them. It has become apparent to you how amazing your life can open up once you stop filling it with meaningless activities, damaging people, and pointless drama. Cut complainers, haters, manipulators, and other negative people out of your life and watch your world expand in every direction. This includes checking yourself for negativity. Your complaints, your drama, your victim mentality, your whining, your blaming and all your excuses have never gotten you even a single step closer to your goals or dreams. Let go of your nonsense. Let go of the delusion that you deserve better and go EARN it.

If you have the power to make someone happy, do it. The world needs more of that!

Building a Relationship w/Companionship

Build Trust – don’t suffer from Pistanthrophobia – fear of trusting people due to past experiences with relationships. Perfection is a variable that isn’t obtainable so don’t set the standard of Perfection leave room for growth in your relationship. Can you love a person who is not perfect or whole? Yes Yes you can! “Because like the moon, it is not only beautiful when its full. It is in all phases and fractions.” If you apply this concept to relationships you accept a person whole heartily for the good and the bad with the intent to grow together. There are people who you’re going to meet who will invest in you and wholeheartedly care for you as you would them. In order to build a relationship of love being attentive to the other person wants and needs is important to creating a foundation that will have a future in which the two can act as one. Companionship includes having someone who betters you, someone who is going to call you out, and not let everything slide. It is good to aim for someone who is not dependent but someone who is stronger with you. A relationship is two people, not one who chooses to sort things out together rather than apart. Supporting one another and loving each other enough to encourage each other’s future. Having that “one” person who inspires you to grow, who will let you go out into the world, and trust you will come back with the tools necessary to create a supporting foundation for the relationship. This is what true love is all about.

Single People Goals Setting

If you are single, do not worry about finding someone. Instead, enjoy yourself. Eat good food. Travel to places you would have never dreamed of. Laugh with people you have nothing in common with. This is the time to figure out who you are and to grow to learn others. Do whatever makes you the happiest. If you don’t know what makes you happily spend this time figuring it out so when you bump into someone they can add to your happiness. You are not in need of an “other half”. You are already whole. If you meet someone then you will still be whole. It is perfectly fine to open your life up to someone else who will share your joy. Tell yourself that you are wonderful. Don’t surround yourself with anyone who makes you feel less than great. You don’t need anyone to make you happy. Happiness is within yourself. Trust me I’ve learned that over time. Focus on yourself, and everything else will eventually fall into place.

Dear outsiders, even the most beautiful of wildflowers are considered weeds in the wrong garden – what another thinks of you does not dictate your values.

No Statute of Limitations

Re-invent yourself every day. There are no limitations to starting over. Let go of the idea you must always be who you have always been. Find balance in your life. Work hard but don’t let work take over your life, you will lose yourself. Love, but for the right reasons. Life is too short for anything mediocre. Know who you are and know that you are worthy of reaching your dreams and that it is never too late to start creating that life you have always dreamed of. Do not compare yourself to others, that’s just deadly. No two souls are the same. You are your own person, you are beautiful and unique. Put your trust in God. Some things are just meant to happen, and some are not. Let go of whatever is stealing your happiness, its hard but it is worth it. Embrace change. Embrace life. Everything happens for a reason, sometimes you just need to breathe, trust and let go…..

#SincerelyWishes