Until we heal the wounds of our past, we are going to bleed. We can bandage the bleeding with distractions, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. We must find the strength to open the wound, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them. Sometimes, I feel like inner peace is truly hard to achieve when others around you pull the pain and hurt from inside. I do believe that one cannot really heal from the stabs of emotional pain when efforts are placed on the table. Vulnerability. Exposure. Willingness to integrate a significant other into your life after continuous hurt maybe not truly be possible without long self-healing. I do believe we are not meant to stay wounded. We are supposed to move through our tragedies and challenge and to help each other move through the many painful episodes of our lives. By remaining stuck in the power of our wounds, we block our own transformation.
We overlook the greater gifts inherent in our wounds, the strengths to overcome them, and the lessons that we are meant to receive through them. Wounds are the means through which we enter the hearts of other people. They are meant to teach us to become compassionate and wise. I’ve learned in life, you will realize there is a role for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you, some will love you, and some will teach you. But the ones who are truly important are the ones who bring out the best in you. They are the rare amazing people who remind you why it’s worth it. There’s going to be very painful moments in your life that will change your entire world in a matter of minutes. These moments will change you. Let them make you stronger, smarter, and kinder. The key to this is to not become someone you are not. Growing up I learned that even that one special person who wasn’t supposed to let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it’s harder every time. You’ll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You’ll fight with your best friend. You’ll blame a new love for things an old one did. You’ll become emotional because time is passing too fast, and you’ll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you’ve never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you will never get back. Don’t be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.
I have come to accept that some of the kindest souls I know, including myself, have lived in a world that was not so kind to them. Some of the best human beings, I know, have been through so much at the hands of others, and they still love deeply, they still care. Sometimes, it’s the people who have been hurt the most, who refuse to be hardened in this world, because they would never want to make another person feel the same way they themselves have felt. (turns page from my book of experiences) I sincerely wish people understood that it’s a myth that time heals. Time heals nothing. It’s what we do with time, the people we surround ourselves with, the life create, and share. The love in our hearts and the hope in our minds, at any time, can heal, create, inspire, and change almost anything you just to take the time to realize it. Look at yourself and the faces of others stop to see all the possibilities and open yourself up to this life.
-Wishing Upon a Star,
SincerelyWishes 2020
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